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What if it were an 18-year-old female pop star talking about her sex life?
Remember that plug in Jailbreak the Patriarchy? It’s been too long since we gender swapped the internet, don’t you think? A few weeks ago, Harry Styles, the 18-year-old member of the pipsqueak band One...
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Bedpost?
So this week for Role/Reboot, I wrote on partner-counting, double-standards, and that weird cocktail of post-coital guilt/consternation/regret/”No! I am a 21st century lady and I will NOT feel these...
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Quadrant Games
One of the most fun bits of blogging is when someone comes out of the woodwork to respond to something I write, to share how my questions and random thoughts relate to their questions and their...
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Lust Is Not the Problem
As a response to some of the commenters on the street harassment piece from a few weeks back, I wrote this for Role/Reboot: The general gist can be summed up by one of my favorite SlutWalk signs that...
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I WILL respect myself in the morning, Zipcar
I’m a 21st-Century urban lady, so obviously I have a Zipcar membership. Mostly, I use it when I get all the way to a bar and realize I left my ID at home, or when my roommate and I are going on epic...
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How to make a bro friend
This week at Role/Reboot, I wrote about how hard it can be, post-college, to make new cross-gender, platonic friends. As to the title of this post, I learned the answer. Want to make bro-friends? Write...
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Beyonce: World Domination or “Gyrating in a Black Teddy”?
True confessions: I didn’t watch the Superbowl. My book club obliviously picked Sunday to discuss Behind the Beautiful Forevers, and it turns out that we’re nerds who would rather talk about the ethics...
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The Lena Dunham/Patrick Wilson Conundrum
Lena Dunham and Patrick Wilson (Girls) I know you all watched Girls last night and have some seriously complicated feelings about it. I know I do! Most people have been talking structure, since this...
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The Bent Over Cartoon Character That Ruined My Sunday
I’m warning you now that I don’t really have anything articulate to say about the following photo. This is sign I saw walking through Wicker Park last weekend in Chicago: I feel vaguely assaulted....
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Navigating the Minefield of Misogyny on the Way to Happy Town
Man, people are already coming out of the woodwork with comments on my latest for Role/Reboot. I love when this happens! I haven’t written about porn in a while, but when I do, it always starts some...
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Vagina Love!
Sorry for the AWOL-ness of late. Busy busy with travel and “real” work and side projects. What better way to celebrate a return to the blog than with some quality vagina-time? A long time ago, I wrote...
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Want to see my underwear?
Hey look, it’s a pile of my underwear! It’s a pile of underwear that is now in the trash! Twist! Didn’t see that coming, did you? I am moving, which I have not done in several years, and consequently...
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Feeeeeeeeeelings
Do feelings make sex better? Yes.* *Yes, for me. How the hell do I know what makes sex good for you? *Yes, but which feelings? *Yes, but it’s a matter of degrees. *No? Oh my bad, friend, sorry for...
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Why We Need More Sex on TV*
*Well, a certain kind of sex. Or rather, certain kinds of sex. We do not need more scantily clad women. We do not need more blowjob jokes. We do not need more titstaring. We need more variety. That...
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Yeah, but is that “real” sex?
I have the most fun writing when there’s a convergence of conversations and sources that all seem to be pointing towards the same issue. When things that I’m reading overlap with things that I’m...
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Can Sex Positivity Be Negative?
Last week, Kelly Rose Pflug-Back wrote for Huffington Post about how the mantra of sex-positive feminism has actually been negative for her. She, like many people, had suffered sexual trauma, and the...
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A Christian and an Atheist Talk about Sex: Watch What Happens!
I am SO excited about this post. A few weeks ago, I wrote about what counts as “real sex.” I find that our traditional definition, (penis in vagina) is pretty limiting and sometimes damaging because it...
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165 pounds and up? Don’t rely on Plan B.
In case you missed it during the eat-a-thon, football-a-thon, couch-sitting-a-thon that was Thanksgiving, last week I wrote about Mother Jones’ investigation of the efficacy of Plan B (aka emergency...
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Dating like a feminist
Last week I joined Molly and Brian on Vocalo’s Feminist Wednesdays to talk about dating while feminist. As usual, it was a blast and a half. What part should gender roles play in modern dating? How...
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Top 5 Gender-y Stories of 2013
The year of the open letter. The year of twerking. The year of Lean In. The year of Melissa Harris-Perry. 2013, kids, dammmmn. For Role/Reboot this week, I recapped the stories that dominated our...
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